There are no official fees to pay, but there are some other related costs, which I thought I would keep track of here, more for my own curiosity than anything else, and in case anyone out there thinking of adopting is curious. Obviously if you were adopting overseas there are often lots of costs and fees (I don’t know what they are, I have merely heard this on the grapevine). Therefore this summary is merely based on my experience of an adoption process in the UK, and I should stress that these costs so far are very low and relatively minor. Continue reading →
Well, I have had my official Stage 1 meeting (in December), and I have been given a long list of homework to do in the next 2 months, including:
Read at least 3 books from the reading list
Complete a family tree
Create a chronology of my life (including every address I have ever lived at….)
Fill in the DBS forms for a criminal records/background check
Complete some e-learning courses
Create an Ecomap of my support network
Complete a household safety checklist
Obtain criminal records checks from any country I have lived in for over 6 months (THAT could take a while…)
Get 3 references
Have a full medical
The more reading and e-learning I am doing, the more I am starting to more deeply reflect on the process, what is involved, and the impact of adoption is starting to sink in.
It’s almost like they’ve done this before. (No seriously, I must say well done to the Local Authority for such a well-planned process so far, and it really feels like it is all very logical and well-thought out etc).
What is interesting is that starting out on this adventure, it was really, frankly, all about me. I want a family, I want a child/children, I want to adopt siblings, I’m busy fantasising about how lovely it will be, and whether or not they will be white, black, Asian or mixed race etc. Continue reading →
This year, one of my new year’s resolutions was to read more books, so my Dad and I have decided to do this reading challenge together to get some new reading inspiration!
The list itself is fun, and we’ve both put together a list of books we plan to read in 2017. I’m going to post here all the books I have read (which I’ll update as I go along) with a short review of each book.
My first stop was a trip to Waterstones to buy some new books, as frankly, any New Year’s Resolution that involves shopping is a great idea! Continue reading →
A few more of my pots – starting to get better! I went and did a whole Saturday class, and it was FAB! Lots of practice throwing on the wheel and I think my pots are slowly getting more symmetrical! … Continue reading →
A few pics from Autumn 2017, mostly in and around Oxford… A stormy, ominous sky Late summer BBQ with some old Uni friends Some sleeping cherry-pickers Some gorgeous flowers my friend sent me in the post! An utterly lovely surprise! … Continue reading →
So, as many of you will have read about in my first adoption post (Day 1….), I have officially started my journey to becoming a parent, and yes, I plan to document it all here for you, my lovely readers.
I have initially thought that there was a 3-step process, based on my research. The first stage takes about 2 months, and involves some initial interviews, a bit of basic training, and criminal records checks etc. Then the second stage, the home study, takes around 6-8 months and involves extensively poking around into every conceivable part of my life to look for holes or skeletons, talking to my friends, neighbours, employers, bank, mortgage lenders, etc. Then if you make it past that stage, you are “approved for matching” – and matching is the 3rd stage, where you and social workers try to match up approved adopters with children needing families.
So having spoken to the adoption team on the phone, attending an information day, and doing lots of reading, I assumed that my initial interview was the official start of Stage 1.
Once upon a time, Maya’s knees started to make a funny noise.
It was a crackly, crunchy sort of a noise, like the sound of scrunching up paper or tin foil, or crushing cornflakes up in your hand, and it happened every time she went up stairs.
Maya was worried about the strange noises, so she went to see The Physio, who told her she had under-developed glute and thigh muscles which were causing the problems in her knees, and that her knees had started to twist inwards in a way that could be described as “not good”.
Maya “So you’re saying I have a lazy bum?”
Physio “Well, yes, basically. Here are some exercises you need to do to strengthen your bum.” Continue reading →
This week I took my first official step to becoming a parent.
First, a little background for those of you not in the know…..
I’ve always known that I wanted to have kids. Having a family and being a mum is something I’ve always known that I wanted – even when I was 16. As a teenager planning my potential/future career I even looked for jobs that related to working with kids, such as social worker, teacher, etc, and did a lot of summer jobs working with kids in summer camps, or with my mum’s research with children. I always took it for granted that by the time I was in my late twenties, I’d be married with kids.
By the time I was 29, I realised that wasn’t likely to happen – I’ve been pretty much single for my whole life, and I realised that waiting around for Mr Right might mean I miss out on being a mum, and having a family, and for me, that’s too important. I realised that if I wake up one day and I’m 50, and I never had kids, it would be my single biggest regret. So I started thinking about doing it alone instead. Continue reading →
Here are a few more pots that I made Love this splatter one – it’s got deliberate notches that I cut for chopsticks (as it was a present for my sister) but sadly the bowl came out much smaller than … Continue reading →
So, last year I bought an AMAZING pop-up tent, and various camping accoutrements, which I sadly never got to use due to some change of plans. This year I was determined to make use of my tent and camping gear, … Continue reading →